Surround Yourself with A People, not F People

6/1/2016

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We're all guilty of making assumptions based on first impressions, but it's what happens around the second and third impressions that can offer some insight into who people really are. Some people will remain the same, upbeat, encouragement you've met before, while others will fall into their natural turmoil of the constant comparison between themselves and the world around them. Some people will build you up and celebrate your achievements, while others will criticize you, disappoint you, and insist on making life harder than it needs to be.

You will meet people that will start you off with an A, who see the greatness in you and want only the best for you. But, you will also meet people that will give you an F with little reason, creating an endless, unnecessary struggle for you to win their approval.

For F people, life is a constant uphill battle.

These people will always be working against you, with the belief that you need to prove yourself because you somehow owe them something. This behavior is a reflection of who they are, their journey, and the way they see the world, not you. They’re most often insecure with themselves, focusing on their failures so much they couldn't possibly share in your ambitions and successes. They'll praise your flaws, strive for any attempt to make themselves feel superior, and relentlessly try to bring you down to their level with strings of insults. They'll brush off your accomplishments simply because they haven't done it themselves. They'll see your progress as luck, instead of hard work and perseverance. They don't believe in the value of themselves, and so, cannot see the value in you. The world is harder for F people merely because of their outlook on life and surrounding yourself with them will only make your life harder, as well.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"
Eleanor Roosevelt

Be friends with people who see the good in you from the beginning, who work with you to help you become who you’re meant to be, who believe in your goals as they do their own, and who support you in the good and bad moments in life. The right people around you will carry you to the summit of any mountain you face and they'll celebrate in that journey with you. Surround yourself with A people and forget the F people.